I agreed it was rare for someone at such age to even think about celebrating the occasion but somehow I reckon it was an important milestone we both achieved in our life/marriage as husb. & wife!! We've not just known each other for nearly 10 years, shared the happiness & sweetness in life but we'd also walked some dull moments together!! Like any other couples, we'd been thru lots of ups & downs too.
I somehow feel that it was the beginning of a new chapter in life when one strike an age that begin with number '4'....no more calling yourself 30s, hahaha !! Maturity & stability are 2 traits that will surely be associated to that age!! Attaining such age will certainly NOT lift the burden weight off the shoulder instead will only add on to it.....
From a very young age, i already had a thought that being in a man's role is always 'tougher' than that of woman's (though i know many would not agree with this)! I used to & still think that man has a "heavier" responsibility than a woman in many aspects towards the family & children !! If a man is able to 'provide' sufficiently (if not very good) to the needs of his family & children, people would generally said HE is a GOOD husb/father. Instead, if HE ever failed in this role, there might be a possibility that HE is not regarded as a GOOD one! And if a woman is MADE to support the family (even if it's her own willing), than people would said SHE doesn't has a good life b'coz naturally people would think that the husb. is incapable of fulfilling the role to support the family. The rule of thumb is such that man is meant to be the 'MAIN' bread winner of the family........arghhh, i'm kinda 'freak-out' thinking of it.......thank god i'm not......
And for that, "if" given a choice, i will never want to be a man (even in my next life)!!! You may find it silly or disagree but yes, that's what i think......how vulnerable?
And so far.......... i did count my 'blessing' that 'my man' has carried his role 'well'. Like any ordinary human, he does has his shortfalls but i'll just have to keep reminding myself that he has carried with him much of the family's burden thus leaving my shoulder nearly weight-less!!
To appreciate what he has contributed, i threw a little party at home to mark this special occasion and the achievements we'd attained thus far. Initially he was against the idea, but after i promised to bring down the headcount to only my immediate family members, he compromised!
We begin the day with a swimming session for the kids....it was a hot afternoon, so the dip was just nice !!
Very soon, the guests started to pour in....so first thing they do was 'makan' straight away!
Next is another important dish.......which coincidently turned out to be 'ok'! We sometimes need inspiration even in cooking, and if not for seeing this dish YOU cooked recently, i wouldn't be inspired to try it out, 'siu heng' wain steam prawn .....tq genie!!
The rest were sausages, fish balls, sandwiches, fruits salad & dessert!!
We even bottoms up these.............emm, that was high!!!!
I also got the kids some bubbles so that not only the adults enjoyed, the kids got themselves into much FUN too !!!
Got the kids to sing The Song to my 'lou kung'........
Finally it was the gift opening session................
Overall, it was a warm family gathering and i wana thank everyone for marking their presence in a celebration we 'termed' significant !!