My dear huby has been hiding & keeping his feeling of guilt for the past 4 years since the birth of his precious sons. Reason being he has been unable (due to unforeseen circumstances) to bring his boys to visit his ancestors. Same as the buddhist, according to my mom, one is sort of oblighed to "inform" the ancestors on the arrival of new addition to the family. So huby (being the "hau soon" type too) has always looked forward to the chance to fulfil this obligation but time wasn't cooperating well.
All souls day is suppose to be in November & since we were near the festival this time, huby made a vow to perform the rituals with his parents & introduced his boys to the Heng ancestors.
Huby's paternal grandparents & great grandparents were all buried at the same place. So during the entire session, all i heard was them mentioning to the boys:
this is lau ma, lau kung, lau lau ma & lau lau kung ................
Guess it was still too early for the boys to understand. All they were interested was playing with the candles & fires............
It was a very quick session. I'm sure huby was very happy!
PEACE BE WITH YOU !!
10 comments:
Your hubby already fufill his dream, so he wont feels guilty anymore lor.
also the kids will know who is their grandparents...
Its good to do that. I can feel your hubby happiness. I mean, sharing with his two boys,bringing them to do the cleaning. so precious moment. Well done hubby :)
it is indeed fun to visit the ancestors beramai-ramai during cheng beng time!! We even brought qiqi along, and hoohah with us...hehe
sylvia: yes, huby super proud now, his ancestor know his great job, hehehe!!
chanel: i doubt so leh...they hardly udrstd their dialect, haha!
papa: yeah, i'm sure u can udrstd better being a catholic as well as papa to 3 boys...bwahahaha !!
chinnee: yes and think the buddhist one is more "yit lau" !!!
Anne liked your write up. Was suprised how the houses have now moved so close to the cemetery. I have visited the site twice but have not been "introduced"'
while i am not a toaist or buddhist... i will certainly bring my lil one to visit my mom one day...i think it's important.
wei u not in msn ah....
eh i never bring jayden to visit his grandma grave also too young ler...u know a the "things"like to disturb small chewren..
anyway the gang he met online wan...just like us. not friends at first then became friends.
zewt, i agreed it's important & knew u will do it coz u r another "hau soon chai"......
sasha, i do have d same thinking too when they were still young last time but now i no more scared!
yr loukung same with you....both so "in" ahh....both active with "online" thing!!!
well... too late though, i should have done it while she was still around. much regrets...
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