Looking by the title, you could have guess how bad it is for us........!!!
I have to agree that children are no difference from us adults that are unique in their own way! Hence, i suppose there is no single way that deals with ALL !!! My way of dealing with my kids would not necessarily be suitable for others! And this is particularly so for having a set of twins!
When my twins were still babies, i thought i was having the toughest time bringing them up. It was a phobia when midnight approached as it would mean dragging myself up for night feeding or crying! But after having dealt with their terrible biting at 2 yrs old, scary hitting at 3 yrs old, uncontrollable fighting at 4 yrs old & rebellious stage at 5, i now reckon that their babies milestones were the easiest to deal with! As a result, i can't help but to ponder what more challenges that lie ahead.....
I always believe parenting would be easier with a single child or siblings with at least an age gap of 3 years. What i meant was in respect of the affordability of the parents giving their full attention & focus in instilling good values on ONE child without having the obstacles of competition/favouritism. Needless to say, it was obvious that we had challenging obstacles in the upbringing of our twins.
Being first time parents & unexperienced at the same time, we had run out of ideas how to deal with 2 toddlers of the same age/size/height that only bother to " FIGHT " for just anything, in anyway and at anytime ranging from fighting over........ toys/books/stationeries/clothes/foods/drinks or just simply anything !!!
There are people who are acceptable that my boys possessed such attitudes/behaviours at their age but i also like to believe that there are people who thought that my boys are just extra ordinarily naughty! What i'm pretty sure was that most people whom had experienced dealing with my boys would 'shake' their heads indicating the feeling of fear & surprise with the unexpected.
Even my mom was very definate that 'talking' to the boys doesn't seemed to work as their attention span can be very difficult to catch! And the 'talking' remedy is just too slow a method in response to their 'fighting' episode which could be harmful at times if NOT STOP immediately!!
At the very beginning, the instant response was a mild shout......then soon the milder shout progressively developed into sharp screams.....and it intensified to roar yells !!!
To a certain extend, we felt guilty as the screaming did passed on to the boys inevitably! But we just can't help it....
I read a lot about the pros & cons of caning the child. As much as i would love to agree with those expert in sparing the rod, we ended up resorting to the rod as our final solution in dealing with the uncontrollable situations! In fact, by now having experienced parenting the twins for 5 years, we came to term that our boys are only 'scare' of the rod & will only be willing to 'listen' when we showed the rod! Most often than not, we were already up to the max of our limit when we grabbed the cane! It may not be the best method, but at least we got things worked out!!
Would you believe that my mom has got to have the cane in her hand in order to put the boys to nap in the afternoon?? Else, i doubt if my mom would ever get to rest.......need to say more??
I know i have sounded very dreadful now.........so i must not forget to mention that as 'good' parents too, we strive to continuously improve our parenting skills & the upbringing of our boys as they are our 'LIFE', our 'BLOOD' & our 'BREATH' !! We did do the 'talk' as & when the situation permits & the boys do take note too when their lil minds are exceptionally goooood !!!
And here, i promised to keep learning from my fellow blogger friends in parenting skills & would continuously adapt ourselves where necessary!!*
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1. Miche does not spare the rod.
2. Chinnee still spare the rod at this moment.
3. Jacss can't survive sparing the rod.
I am just curious & wonder how the following friends handle the rod: